Chosen Families

Chosen families are created outside the structures of (and often in the place of) traditional nuclear families. In the LGBTQ+ community, it is not uncommon to seek a substitute family, a non-biological family chosen for love and mutual support, many times in response to rejection by families of origin. In fact, when a family of origin is absent or unsupportive, a chosen family is essential. Even with an intact biological family, cultivating close, supportive relationships with friends, neighbors and colleagues can provide welcome kinship. And the beauty of a chosen family is that one opts into it; there’s freedom and opportunity to co-create a community reflective of shared values.

Members of the LGBTQ+ community who come from conservative religious backgrounds and/or reside in areas heavily influenced by conservative religious views, often feel particularly isolated and alone. Their backgrounds, churches and families may even prevent them from completing the coming out process, resulting in internalized oppression and serious mental health issues. And therapists and other health providers who’ve experienced a conservative religious indoctrination may actually inflict harm upon the clients and patients they serve, if they bring prejudicial views into their practices.

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Chris Bailey